Wednesday, November 9, 2011
IT'S A THANKLESS JOB
I’ve been spending some time in this play group I found for the boys. It’s basically a room filled to the brim with toys so the kids can enjoy free play time while the mommy’s sit around and chat. It’s so obvious how we are all dying for some adult conversation. Some of us have even expressed those feeling aloud and we all laugh because it is a relief to know we are not the only ones thinking this way.
I venture over there different times of the day according to our eating, sleeping, school, and therapy schedule, so I get to meet someone knew almost every time. Our topic of conversation is a broad range of subjects, for example: vacations, husbands, jobs, daily routine with the children and work or past jobs before the kids came along. The careers of these women amaze me. I am in the tri-state area and being so close to
brings an array of interesting professions. I’ve met a book editor whose husband was also in publishing. Of course I immediately jumped on that one. I tried to slyly throw in my self published book into our conversation but she told me to find a literary agent specializing in the Young Adult book genre and basically sent me on my way and out of her hair. I’m sure her husband didn’t par take in the kind of publishing I am looking for but what established publisher doesn’t know of someone to hook you up with? However, I’m sure a mommy in passing was not on this woman’s high priority list to go and bug her husband about. New York City
I’ve met teachers, therapist, and business owners. Everyone had something pretty interesting going on before the kids. And every one of those women are proud and enthused to be talking about their pasts. Even I get excited to say I work part time from home and once in a while, when I’m feeling a little brave, I’ll throw in that I am writing a book. That’s usually a crowd pleaser.
I think we are all just happy to be getting a break from our current diaper, nap, feeding and frenzied routines. Not that it isn't enjoyable to swap notes on the best time to potty train, but when you are living in the mommyhood moment it doesn’t appear as adventurous as say, traveling into the city to meet clients for a cocktail. Personally, that would suck for me. I have no sense of direction so traveling into the city would be like dumping me into the woods at night. I would squabble around for shelter until someone came to save me. Plus, I don’t like knowing that I have to do something. Of course I will get out of bed and get to an appointment on time, but I kind of like having the say as to who, where, when, why and how. That’s the best part about staying at home. I’m the boss, I call the shots and we do what I want, when I want. Even with my part time job I make the hours and if I get board I can shut down the business early for the day and work a little extra when I’m up for it.
Not to go completely off topic, but I have to interject a critical and ironic point into this blog, right now. Can I tell you…I have shushed and shooed my four year old about 15 times since I have been writing. Its , he is board and will not stop bugging me. Some would say I should stop writing and go and play with him but logically I tell you, I played with him all morning long and then took him straight to the play group to try and hopefully exhaust him a little. But no such luck! He is on me like a magnet. This is the problem, I say! No breathing room when you’re a stay at home mom. However, I could go back and forth over the good and the bad all day long. I’m just staying focused on the fact that I am the only one here with my kids during these tender molding years. My intentions are good, my love is endless and I want the best for them always, so I’m going to stick it out with this thankless job because I know, down the road, I will thank myself that I did.